I'm saying that it's possible to both be the victim and to have made a stupid choice that made you winding up as the victim more likely.
And, clearly, that it's possible for you to be unable to understand such subtleties.
And, clearly, that it's possible for you to be unable to understand such subtleties.
You're changing the target of the actions mid sentence. Said person is responsible for their own actions _and_ to blame for their own actions. They are not responsible for someone else's actions nor to blame for someone else's actions.
If a person knowingly takes actions that put them at greater risk, then they are to blame for putting themselves at greater risk.