How old are you? When my family came to northern Virginia in 1989, it was quite polished, conformist, and orderly. The George H.W. Bush East-coast WASP culture still dominated. The current generation of “think for yourself” “don’t let anyone tell you what to do” kids was percolating through the education system, but they were not yet running anything.
You can still see pockets of this. I was in Salt Lake City a couple of years ago and it was amazing. I was also in Iowa, and the older folks were pretty orderly, but you can see among the younger folks that southern redneck culture has been spreading.