That's a lot of opinions and much less arguments (no offense). Would you care to explain the motivations behind the opinions?
This is why "forking" an open-source project was considered a nuclear option prior to the emergence of github.
I rarely even get pull requests from people forking my code on github, and when I do, they almost never have bothered to discuss with me prior to implementation. It's a relatively recent phenomena that is largely encouraged by the tools.