> The drugs also scare me... The idea of giving something like that to a child profoundly scares me.

It works differently in people with the disorder. I took Adderall as a child and as an adult for adhd. It didn't get me wired nor did I have withdrawal symptoms, I simply felt more centered and capable of starting tasks. I know that we can only draw on our own experiences to judge things, but understand that people with this disorder experience the drug completely differently than you did.