> So too can a metal bat. put a g-meter on the ball and it will register acceleration as force is applied to the ball. Gravity is different. Put a g-meter on a falling metal ball and it will detect zero acceleration.

That really depends on construction of your g-meter. If instead of mass (ie. gravitational charge) you use electric charge in your accelerometer then that electric charge on the falling ball - ie. moving with acceleration - will generate EM wave thus providing clear detection of acceleration.

Wrt. the "boson" - gravity effects propagate with finite speed, i.e. wave, and the neutron in gravitational potential experiment shows that the gravitational potential/energy is quantized, and thus we have wave and quantized nature -> boson (wave packet/quant mediating interaction of a charge with the field).