> would have treated this as a systemic problem rather than commenting on any individual or group's behavior.
All systemic problems of the kind you're talking about involve the behavior of a specific group. Otherwise, you're talking about, what? All humans? All mammals? How is that useful to a guy trying to find a girl?
> get their act together and stop thinking of life in terms of "looking for a girlfriend"
What motivation do most men use to get their act together? Women. That's not a bad thing. It's human nature.
> the student he was replying to comes off as in some serious need of self-confidence, something that most well-adjusted people seek out in a partner.
And you don't think moving to an area where it's easier to get a date is going to help with that?