It's hard to know what's good advice, but I don't think it's a good idea to be careless about dating. Realistically, after college it will be dramatically more difficult to find someone. In retrospect, finding each other was probably the most important thing my wife and I did at school. Once you're an adult, things stop happening by default for you and you have to make them happen. So sure, don't obsess because that's off-putting, but also be strategic about what's important to you (unfortunately the time to do that is probably when picking a school, assuming you have the luxury to do that).

Rates of unmarried people are on a steep increase[0]. If a family is important to you, go somewhere where that's more likely to happen (e.g. good dating odds, other people with similar goals). The bay area is probably not that place for either sex.

[0] https://www.census.gov/library/visualizations/2021/comm/neve...