There's a really confusing gap between grief, or what I thought grief should look like, when losing someone close and the indifference or mere sympathy that comes with hearing about the loss of someone you don't know. A number of years ago I found out that someone I knew from university had died. He was young, and the whole thing was just so genuinely confusing that I didn't know how to feel about it. I'm in a similar position right now, learning about an old friend's terminal illness via their gofundme page. Do I reach out? Should I even be sad? All I seem to feel in this kind of situation is a derailing bewilderment.