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> Pagers and phones are MY devices, and I get to decide how I will respond to them.

Oh, so you've never had the "why didn't you pick up/ call back/ answer my text/ etc" conversation with your partner? Lucky...

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Not at our house. We decided early on that the phone was for the owner not everybody else. One of my sons even leaves it in a drawer, takes it out once a day to check.

That’s pretty cool. Your son has a better relationship to technology than a lot of adults. Probably reflects some good parenting, nice work.

“we” — you mean that you decided for your family, removing agency from other humans

I’m having a hard time understanding how allowing each person to use their phone as they please is removing their agency.

If you can't decide what is better for your kid, maybe you shouldn't be a parent.

I'm finding that the most stridently-held views on parenting tend to come from non-parents

Everybody else seems to accept that it's an endless series of tweaks, adjustments and highly context-specific compromises

> I'm finding that the most stridently-held views on parenting tend to come from non-parents

In this case is it the children ?

Sure, we have that discussion and I answer and we set clear boundaries.

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