As an example, she absolutely hates airports but doesn't mind flying. The noises, announcements, people moving around, never knowing if your gate will change, all of it is awful to her. I don't mind the airport but once the plane is in the air watching the time tick down is torture to me. Everybody's a little different.
The "spoon theory" [1] can help things make sense, and it's a great start, but it's a bit more nuanced than that. It's more about controlling exposure to "unexpected" stimulus.