My humble perspective, having gone through that, is that young men have it very hard to find their value. As a young man, after you've been past your teenage years young men don't get the "kid's pity" and unconditional love anymore. You become only as useful as the things you do, and what can you do as a young man? Specially if you haven't really grown up with a supportive father you end up in a limbo where you're not yet a man but nobody really tells you how to be a man. Equally women generally don't find men trying to figure things out very attractive. It is, then, easier to feel better with yourself when you're on your 30s and you are lucky enough to have found a way to figure things out by yourself. Then and only then you suddenly become "useful", attractive to women and respected by other men. Getting through the first stage without falling into suicide or hedonism is the hardest part.