at what point do you stop being a newbie? I have been on SO for 14 years and have found "lately" or the last five or so years to be extraordinarily unfriendly. I am in the middle of solving a complex problem so I posit a question but it's stripped to bare bones to make it easier to answer -- and the answer is almost always is not what I seek but instead "why are you doing this". Aaaaargh. I would need to post War & Peace to make you understand why so I just go and delete the question when this happens which is too often. Example: https://stackoverflow.com/q/77202800/308851 lots of comments asking why I am doing this were deleted but downvote remains. I kept this one up for whatever reason although downvotes usually are enough to make me delete a question.
My advice: if you can't help then stay away from the question. Alas, this likely won't reach the hopped-on-SO-power idiots but it's worth a try.