I’ve never really understood punishment.(directed from humans, I’m all for putting kids into challenging situations and letting them learn from the world) Shouldn’t we be teaching kids self restraint and intrinsic motivation? Like I’m not hoping that my kid grows up to be someone that just blindly pursued pleasure / avoids pain, I hope they use they’re frontal cortex.

The only think being punished as a kid ever taught me was not to take the person punishing me seriously and strategies for avoiding that person.