As to my own experience: I am, according to most standardized tests, very apt at quantitative reasoning, but I never progressed far in math in school. Why? because I was placed on the standard track in math in a public school with a bunch of students who didn't care, and teachers who didn't have time to care, and to be honest, the attitude rubbed off. I once got in trouble because I programmed a python script to do my problem sets when I was 13 because it was faster than doing it by hand for me. In retrospect, that form of "cheating" was a sign that my teachers should have picked up on.
Quite simply, I never had access to a good math instructor throughout my schooling.
Now, decades later, I am intensely interested in a lot of subjects that require a background in math that I don't have, and I am becoming interested in Math for Math's sake. I have been using open access textbooks, and an AI assistant of my own creation to help me learn.