One way to help reduce overall weight of embeds (and improve the UX imho) is to block the ads - if you are able to leverage "Content Security Polices" on your pages.
Example META tag:
<meta http-equiv="Content-Security-Policy"
content="default-src 'self' 'unsafe-inline' *.your-cdn-if-any.com
www.youtube.com *.googlevideo.com *.ytimg.com">
More info:
https://developer.mozilla.org/en-US/docs/Web/HTTP/Headers/Co...