But ultimately yes, reducing through traffic can be a good thing, and there are ways to do that in cities too. There's a good video on this here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dqQw05Mr63E
Suburbs designed around cul-de-sacs are amazing to get around in, very very easy, extremely bike friendly!
One way to do it is you'll have a main road with shops, and no houses, and leading off of that tons of very quiet residential streets with barely any cars. Kids play in the street, people bike all over the place, and when you shop all the stores are in one place so you save on car trips.
Though I would have liked more nearby options, growing up I enjoyed being able to walk to nearby corner stores and such. Would you feel comfortable letting kids walk or bike to a nearby shop unattended in the places you're talking about?
It's great when you have 3-year-old kids, because they can play safely in front of your house. But when they become 10-16, they can't safely walk or bike to anywhere and have to be driven to school, sports practices, Burger King, the Quik Mart, everywhere. The middle school is only a half mile from my house and the high school is only a mile a way, but none of the kids can safely walk or bike to these schools. Everyone gets dropped off by their parents.
Its really an awesome perk to living in the suburbs, and my kids being able to just say "Hey. I'm going for a bike ride" and me not having to worry is a massive life upgrade for everyone involved.
You don't want other people driving their cars in front of your home, but neither do the people who live in the urban core.
I lived in the Chicago suburbs for a while and never drove downtown. I was a passenger a couple times, but when I went, I always took the Metra. During rush hour it would take half the time, or better, and it was fairly cheap. Though I won’t say the entire system was perfect.
Where I’m at now, the only option to avoid driving is the bus. The bus takes at least 3x longer than driving. No one is going to take it unless they have to due to their circumstances. I don’t want to drive and park down there, which leaves me with Uber. I’ve done it a few times, but it’s far from ideal, and fairly expensive. If they had some light rail and a free commuter lot, I’d go down there all the time.
Culs-de-sac aren’t the problem, it’s the lack of non-car options to bridge the suburbs and the city, to reduce car traffic in cities while allowing people from the suburbs to come into the city to spend their time and money. Not everyone will use the transit options, but it just needs to be enough to make the roads manageable. The better the transit options, the more people we’ll likely see opt in.
North American suburbs typically lack the necessary population density to make the sort of transit you ask for viable. Car dependence is intrinsic to low density single family zoning.
On top of that, in many states, riding the bus is essentially seen as a poor person activity as everyone is expected to have cars. So if you want to ride the bus, you have to walk 30 minutes in the 100+ degree temp or if its not hot, its raining. Then sit (if you are lucky enough to be next to a bus stop with a bench instead of just a sign) on an uncovered covered bench. Its made (designed??) to be such a bad experience that people avoid it if they can.
That's the eternal trade off of city vs suburb. In the suburbs you have to drive everywhere but there are fewer people. In the city (some of them) you can walk or use public transportation but there are far more commuters coming into your area. The choice really just depends on your life needs and personal situation
Not so safe. :(
You underestimate the perverseness of teenagers in loud cars.
Plus we have a huge amount of local cops in the area at all times to the point I have to warn uber drivers that if they speed they are going to get pulled over, guaranteed.