Jake, you don't know me but I want to thank you and Bess for sharing what you've been going through with us on here. It would have been easier not to fight this hard, and not to write all of this, and I appreciate that you did. If you can, and I know maybe you can't, you should write a personal letter to your daughter, to read when she is old enough to understand how much you love her, even though you never met her. Your story makes me want to do the same for my son, even though I am not dying as far as I know. Bess's article "Forever is such a short, long time" deeply affected me, and I will be quoting it directly when I say my wedding vows in a few weeks. Her vision of what love and good relationship means is deeply wise, and you are both lucky to have each other.