This is an unfortunate attitude.
From a software architecture point of view, you're hard-coupling your software to that database which can create brittleness: You're at the mercy of the original database schema which may not be optimal, carries it's own tech debt, may require translations to your own implementation, and may cause mistakes in interpretation in anything of scale. Even worse, you're at the customer's mercy if they want to change anything which immediately breaks your code (likely without warning) and now you have to fix it (likely under duress).
Letting an outside org get direct access to a database is an unnecessary security risk, even if you are "treating infosec seriously". I'd argue no organization that treats infosec seriously would want to request access to or grant access to anything more than the minimal information they need. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Principle_of_least_privilege
Modern software design has found putting up abstractions and interfaces to address those issues which is why it's not particularly common. In fact, one fintech I worked with did this and ruined a team's holiday weekend by making an unfortunate and unsignaled change late on a Friday.