Depends on a lot. I used to argue about how to raise kids. She always won and I gave up having any say. I had a few siblings and many younger cousins that I watched very often and had been trained on how to raise kids by older people in my "village." I was confident and had a lot of tools under my belt. She floundered and insisted on going with her gut reaction on everything. Zero siblings, cousins, experience or training.

Twenty years later she is having breakdowns about the kids sitting around the house fucking off and pissing their life away. Not helping with shit unless harassed. Ignoring her every word.

She pleads with me for help, and I just shrug and say: "What are you going to do honey? It is what it is." I tried to prevent this.

Then I go on with my life and prioritize my own enjoyment. All I ever wanted to do was give them serious responsibilies around the home, but she always rebuffed it. Now it's too late.

You can't tell anyone anything.