Highly gifted here (ACE 7), skipped two grades. Burnt out young before career really took off. Still did well enough to be comfortable - worked in research for a while. Spent decades trying to find answers from doctors who were all useless. Found out much later it’s ME/CFS from hEDS (TNXB) and it’s a lot more frequent that people realize, especially in cohorts selected for intelligence. When I was young I was warned by the gifted program coordinators that skipping multiple grades was bad for kids because they always burnt out, I think they noticed a direct link between the extent of giftedness and the likelihood of burnout but missed the causation.

So I agree there is a strong link between such household behaviors and giftedness but it’s because genetic predisposition to anxiety issues, dopamine disregulation, chronic fatigue in a world that can’t identify it or manage it. So these people get sick and not only can’t get help but the whole world gaslights them. I don’t blame my parents for who they are. And as tough as it has been for me I wouldn’t trade it back for my IQ especially in an era where intelligence is at such a premium. I just try to get the message out in the hope that it helps others, hence posts like this.