My first hand experience with how public schools treat girls vs boys nowadays (often in subtle ways) is:
Girls: You will be an astronaut stem president boss queen with less than $REPLACEMENT_RATE children! Boys: Hey how about be a girl
Girls: You will be an astronaut stem president boss queen with less than $REPLACEMENT_RATE children! Boys: Hey how about be a girl
I wanted to learn more about computers but the staff that were savvy were much more excited about teaching the girls, they rightly figured I'd have no trouble exploring that interest. At the time it was fine if mildly frustrating, now I'd be pretty worried about such behavior.