Ok so I'm talking with the wrong person and this conversation isn't useful and I won't change your mind. You're admittedly a die-hard progressive and democracy is less of a rational concept and more of a partisan religion to you.
You don't find it sad that you would rather theory craft about democracy rather than participating in it? If having the desire for oneself to spread democracy makes me partisan than I guess I'm lucky to live in a country where these partisans actually have power.
I actually run elections. "Spreading democracy" is what Hillary Clinton, Victoria Nuland, Condi Rice and the rest of the bipartisan neocon gang does when they bomb countries into oblivion and leave behind chaos and death.