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Good for you.

I noticed, before I stopped drinking, I never was on a party where I didn't at least got tipsy.

Meaning, all my social skills relied on alcohol. It made it easier to talk to people, date women, etc.

I never learned to do all that sober, and so now that I'm pushing 40, I feel kinda lost at events.

This hits close to home for me. Recently I’ve been reflecting on this based on a similar situation.

(It’s not worked and still new.) I’m trying to force myself to find new hobbies and as a result interact with people while sober. I’ll report back, good luck to you!

I drank for the taste, not for the effect of alcohol (I did that 2 times on purpose in my life and I'm ok with that). Stopped around 20. Honestly, most party chats are not that interesting. Usually the interesting things happen at the end of a party when the amount of people shrink, then it becomes more interesting. This is entirely subjective, just giving you an N+1

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