> I think that attitude is hurtful. The blame lies with those who are unwilling to listen, which is honestly most people.

This is my experience. All my guy friends growing up were totally willing to both open up on a personal level when it was just me and them.

However, too many of them were willing to make too many jokes at my expense when in a group of multiple guys. So they weren't super helpful in keeping me as that person. I'm sure i was a bit more "thin skinned" or whatever than I should be been, but I expected more from them, since they were willing to be so sincere when it's just me and them. The tonal whiplash was too hard to take.

Hopefully we've all grown a bit since then.