> greatly appreciate systemd
Really? I have yet to see one. Kids, maybe. Experiences sysadmins may appreciate systemd as PID1, but almost everything else is pure cancer.
> There's a major disconnect, I've seen, from what systemd haters proclaim and what is reality.
I can certainly agree with that.
> Nobody is forcing anything
... until distro maintainers decide to move crucial tasks to systemd-timers from cron, change resolved to systemd-resolved, switch from ntpd to whatever its called, remove sudo in favor of another systemd thing, etc. But sure, you are free to not use any. Except the only *nix thing left is the Linux kernel. Soon to be systemd-kernel.