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Violently extracting the man from his home demands sincere apologies. Without that, and if you choose to focus on your own wellbeing as so many suggest, there is no reason for him to trust you, or his own security. Water, food, shelter, clothing, and love are not bargaining chips to get someone to comply with medication, they are necessities and much more fundamental to mental health than pharmaceuticals with indeterminate effects.

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To add, I understand GPs story and appreciate them for sharing.

Finding themselves in an unmanageable situation I understand they are not directly at fault for the use of force, but the roommate still deserves an understanding apology from the person close to them who escalated authority.

Since he refuses treatments, I recommend he quit everything except sleep, diet and exercise until he can respond normally to normal conversations, and suggest utilizing motels.

It was the mental health crisis team who made that decision to remove him. I don't think it's fair to blame OP - who presumably called out of concern. If that is your take then you are suggesting that nobody call for help in a mental health crisis for any reason, which I don't think is a valid take.

The straw-man invalid take is not really helpful to a shared living situation. Why not apologize for the consequences of the concern? New events can be a call to renew agreements.

Agree with this - calling the cops on him is a harmful action even if the intention was a positive end result. If this is in the US, you just pointed violent people with firearms at your friend, and asked them to use violence against him. I would never trust someone again who did that to me.

Hang on, op didn’t call the police, they called a crisis team who are trained professionals.

Those professionals, for better or worse, chose to include the police.

we all know cops come with these situations, it's effectively the same thing, it's more that the crisis team came with the cops.

I thought the same thing, why not calling family first and let them provide help...

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