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Definitively agree. Being blunt, too direct is just the opposite of a good and effective communication.

Being too blunt raises defenses and completely wipes out the effectiveness of your feedback. Folks that are invested in outcomes make choices for good reason, and they've probably got a track record to back it up. You have to meet them where they are, and considering their communication styles and how they make decisions will improve the chances you're actually heard.

It's a fact of life that people shut down when approached with evidence that refutes their world view or choices. It doesn't matter if it's your boss or grandparents.

> It's a fact of life that people shut down when approached with evidence that refutes their world view or choices.

I don't really agree with you. This is a basic quality of skilled leadership. You want people refuting your worldview with evidence! It lets you correct course and make things better.

Only insecure people shut down like this in my experience.

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