"Thanks. How do you want to help?"

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Be careful about this. Others really are best at flagging and uncovering situation bias/blindness you didn't know you had. If you do get to a step three, (I can help with XYZ/I was like you and did XYZ.) don't ever dismiss it.

Yep, 100% agreed. Last month I scheduled phone calls with close friends/family to ask questions like this:

• What can I be doing differently?

• What's holding me back?

• What should I spend less time on?

• If you were me, what would you change?

• Where should I focus next?

• What can everybody see that I can't? What's taped to my back?

What an amazing experience! It's so hard to listen to criticism without defense. It's even harder to find actionable next steps once problems have been identified! I think I've been more interested in actionable feedback lately, but I guess not all good feedback is necessarily actionable

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this is a really intelligent way to reframe unsolicited criticism, thanks for sharing it :)

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