Comments on legal issues: I absolutely agree and 100% plan to get legal advice. In the meantime, if you have personal experience, I would love to learn from you.
Comments on HIPAA: I'm 99% sure this does not apply, since the site is for patients and their families, and no doctors, clinics, hospitals, or insurance companies are involved. All information comes from the family, and stays in the family.
Comments on security: This is a huge issue for me. I've followed best practices as nearly as I can, but I've also been asking around to find out who could do a comprehensive security audit, but haven't yet found anybody I trust. Does anybody have any recommendations on how to find someone?
Comments on terms of use, etc: Yes, this needs to be done, but I figured the terms of use are of no use until there's something to use.
Comments on "novice" and "learning projects": Yes this was absolutely built with love and grand intentions, and no, I'm not a novice. I wrote this because my adult daughter died of cancer recently, and we really could have used this. If I can help others deal with the pain of diseases like this, then I'm going to try. I'll work through the problems as they come up.
Aside from the security audit, I'm also looking for someone who'll do a much more professional design and L&F for the site.
Another issue I can really use advice on is how to show this to the people who need it. People who aren't dealing with the problem right now, aren't interested. How do I reach the maybe 5% to 10% of people who have the need right now?