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This is blaming the parents for society, and the complaints appears to not be specific to ADHD.

Parents do their best within the knowledge they have. Blaming your parents for the outcomes of society is childish.

Fortunately the author is maturing out of childhood - and discovering as we all do that they are the only person that has the motivation and ability to find their own solutions to their own problems.

Society definitely fucks us up, and most people are trying hard to help improve their little corners, but it's a devil's problem.

Education systems do unfortunately feel so retardedly broken from the inside as users.

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>This is blaming the parents for society

Pragmatically speaking: I offer that society isn't going to read the article but some parents will.

And parents won't change the direction of society but they can parent differently.

That's where I see potential value in the article.

Yes, this article has the value of having a child’s perspective in form of an adult prose. It’s difficult to sympathize with him as an adult but gives insight on how some children see their parents during their adolescence.

On rereading, I can't see anything actionable for parents. Article says:

  The whole experience was abusive.

  [my parents] relied on discipline as the only solution: withholding rights, denying privileges, banning books outside the curriculum because they "caused inattention," cutting off the internet, locking TV channels with passwords, and limiting socialization during study time.

We can wish our parents were appropriately liberal, and personally I am fortunate to have been brought up by permissive but not lax parents.

but strict ("authoritarian") parents do not change their habits easily. In my experience parents don't know how to teach independence (the key to adulthood).

My smartest friends left home at 15, to avoid their loving but overbearing/overcontrolling parents.

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