R4L folks thought that preliminary R4L infrastructure being accepted upstream meant that all the changes they needed in the future would be accepted easily as well, and now that there are concerns from subsystem maintainers, a few R4L folks are playing the dramatic victim card.
From what I understand, market pressures are causing R4L folks to panic. If they can't get more R4L stuff upstream, people can't ship Rust drivers, and R4L development falls apart.
That's not kernel maintainers' problem, though. They have a job to do to, and it has nothing to do with Rust kernel drivers except as far as they're persuaded Rust drivers help the linux community overall and will be maintainable without unacceptably disrupting their tool-assisted workflows. Several of them have concluded, so far, that R4L PRs will unacceptably disrupt existing workflows.
That's where R4L has failed. They've failed to persuade subsystem maintainers that some added headaches/retooling/efficiency-loss is worth it to enable Rust drivers. Which drivers, and who wants to use them? Perhaps the potential downstream users of those drivers can talk with kernel devs, persuade them it's really valuable, and figure out a plan?