But the external service needs to know your ip, so why not port as well?
It gives you a public dynamic IP + port combination if your network is NAT1 all the way to the internet. Both IP & port being dynamic kinda complicates things, they ended up inventing a new DNS record type, "IP4P" where IPv4 address and port are encoded as an IPv6 address, and modified WireGuard/OpenVPN clients are required.
We are supposed to solve this using SRV records, but I don't think many consumer-facing apps can do this.
Instead, we're locked into proprietary platforms or relying on old phone systems.
No, there’s a reason software like FaceTime, and calling in general, are mediated by centralized services and implemented as client-server. Because relying on your users to have stable IP’s, and to always be behind a properly configured firewall, would be an utterly insane way to design something.
Hence “ipv6 is a relic of a bygone era”, because in the era we live in now, IP addresses change and users move between networks constantly, and NAT is very much the least of our problems.
You're pretty much never getting a new IP at every cell tower.
> Then I get to my friends house and his router is gonna block unestablished connections so you better call me soon.
PMP can solve that.
> Because relying on your users to have stable IP’s
Not a stable IP, but some kind of stable identity. Like a DNS name. That can be provided by someone like Apple, or Google, or whoever. It doesn't need to be ultra-centralized by only a single thing controlling it.