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My wife uses a Bedjet which has both a remote and app. Thankfully it works without an active Internet connection.

It uses a bag-like sheet that it blows air into, to adjust temperature. For women suffering* through menopause, being able to adjust around hot/cold flushes is sanity-preserving!

* Some women don't suffer much during perimenopause or menopause, but it's a process that seriously fucks with one's hormones. A word of advice to any partner of a woman going through perimenopause: believe them when they tell you what they're going through! So many partners don't realize just how much this can mess up someone, they deserve every sympathy possible.

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I love my BedJet. The app is absolute jank though and really dated, and I didn't get the remote with mine.

If you're running HomeAssistant and you want better controls, grab a spare ESP32 and run the ESPHome BedJet integration. https://esphome.io/components/climate/bedjet.html

(A little ironic you need an external ESP32 to talk to the internal ESP32 that is the BedJet's guts...)

Geez. I had this idea myself a long time ago. Glad to see it's a real thing, good on them for making it!

My friend Sara had a rare form of breast cancer at 34. Thankfully she survived, but to improve her odds of staying alive she's been essentially put into permanent menopause for the next decade. Constant hot flashes.

Is the Bedjet really that good? Would your wife recommend it without reservations? Are there any other product that have made a difference for her?

Apologies if that's intrusive but improving Sara's sleep would be life-changing for her.

Yes, my wife would recommend it without reservations.

There's also a cold water circulator, useful for icing a painful limb etc. https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B09VRJ153X

Not intrusive at all, I hope your friend can find some relief. I hope she can find strength and joy in life.

Thank you both very much for your kind words and advice, ordering one now. No doubt it will make a dramatic difference.

My wife has been suffering with perimenopause tremendously. Her hormonal fluctuations have caused hair loss, severe insomnia, and mood swings that seriously degrade the quality of her life. It's hard to watch. There's no magic trick to fix it, and she isn't doing anything 'wrong' that she should change.

If she hasn't started taking progesterone and estrogen, I recommend she talk to a doctor about doing that. Good luck, it's hard on both of you and I hope it gets better soon.

Thank you. It really is. It’s similar to pregnancy in that if both people are engaged in caring for mom and baby, it can be exhausting for everyone when things aren’t going smoothly.

I may suggest this to my wife.. She's going through the hot flash stage..

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