You found this out by reading nearby comments? Or is there more lore from other HN threads?

you sound like a person I used to date who my therapist says is definitely a clinical narcissist... love bombing, devaluation, isolating from family members, transactional and conditional, and discard.

edit: I ask because I used to have the domain zvive and use that username... so a little personal for the user to use zvive2.