If you don’t like it buy a “fair phone”. There is some freedom of choice here too. I want the freedom to choose a locked down phone for my family and myself to use without worrying about it being hacked.
I write this as someone who is a major open source contributor and advocate. There are somethings I just want to work, and my primary phone is one of them. I have other play devices.
I haven't checked in some time but why don't you just jailbreak your iphone if you want it to be "yours".