Take New Zealand as an example. Last year the major import from NZ to the US was wine.
The major export from US to NZ was military hardware.
Now. Why should the dollar quantity of wine you buy from someone equal the dollar quantity of military hardware you sell them?
There really is no reason at all that the bilateral trade between countries should be balanced and therefore it's not reasonable to think that the aggregate trade with all countries should be balanced or that it would be more desirable if that were the case.