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I don't understand this at all. I love being an independent adult. I am certainly critical of how certain things are done where I live, but I really do not long for being a child. I had a good childhood, but I like being able to chart my own course and face my own challenges.

I love the adventure ig, it saddens me to see people trapped in nostalgia when there's a whole world of possibilities out there if you're just a little bit brave.

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You’ll probably take this the wrong way but I have no other way to say it. If are not in grief over your past, you truly had a poor past, or you have not yet realized the significance of it.

Good things that end should elicit mourning, and I do believe this can be an everlasting mourning that no human will escape.

And again, subjectively, there’s is no reason why you can’t mourn something good forever. In that way, depression is a way of life.

My past led to me to my present circumstances . You must have a huge regret somewhere if your past hasn't built into a future and present that you're happy with and excited to continue building. I'm not saying there's nothing I miss, but that's not the singular focus of my existence. I still have good times, even when I have struggled or will struggle in the future.

Or you might just be depressed.

That’s the thing about the depression, is that that there is a somberness to accepting that you cannot continue building. For example, if you are 80, you cannot keep building a future for yourself. If you are 20, you cannot keep building a childhood for yourself. There’s a raw acceptance involved, like a cold bath.

Some stay in that cold bath, some even embrace the cold bath. The reason depression is not bounded to any time period or generation is because this is the human process that is constantly occurring.

You’d have to be oblivious if you keep moving forward happily, honestly.

In a sense, I’m suggesting it may be crazy to not be depressed.

Agree to disagree ig. I don't mind if you think I'm oblivious :)

But it's no way to live. Get some help.

> You’ll probably take this the wrong way but I have no other way to say it. If are not in grief over your past, you truly had a poor past, or you have not yet realized the significance of it.

Not GP, but this is absolutely wrong.

I had a good childhood with loving parents, I had many friends growing up, and I enjoyed my free time.

I also enjoy that it came to an end. All good things nust end, else they have no value.

This is mostly because I achieved nice things in life. In many ways the present is the best time of my life. I embrace change. I like my adulthood, and as I grow older I will enjoy my old age while my health allows to.

Dwelling in the past is unhealthy.

Yeah honestly. I've made peace with the past being past. Life isn't all sunshine and daisies obviously, but its also not an inevitable depression. Things changing is a part of life and every new stage has different experiences available to it. That's really neat imo. Learning to make peace with that inevitability is not easy, but its a part of having a healthy outlook.

It sounds like you have an issue with depression and it is coloring not only your own perception but the presumptions you have on how other people must live. Take it from the responses you’re receiving that this isn’t normal and you don’t need to live like this.

I don't think so? This is a topic on depression and quite frankly, no one has answers. You can't make sense of what I'm saying as a possible reason as to why we're seeing depression in the macro across time periods?

People are depressed today because they were depressed yesterday, and yesterday, and tomorrow and tomorrow. They were always depressed and will always be depressed. So, what do large amounts of people most likely have in common? It's a spiritual issue tied to emotional experiences, and under some ways of life, it's not even considered an "issue", it's considered discernment.

There's a lot of ways to meditate and live life. I can urge you to seek God, but you wouldn't appreciate it if I said that (so I won't say it).

I’m only taking issue with the idea that by having a pleasant childhood you must live a life depressively mourning it.

If you only mean to say that depressive moments are an intrinsic and inevitable one-of-many flavors of life, I’d agree with that. This is much different from what I’d consider clinical, chronic depression of course.

You don’t need to urge me to seek God, that already comes from within.

the word nostalgia was first used to describe the phenominon as a disease, which perhaps you knew I agree with seeking adventure, as an adult, and I dont long for childhood, but I do treasure the times when oportunity allows me to listen in on children in there more earnest and determined moments and silently wish for there continued insight and wisdom pretending to be fully absorbed in bieng an adult and therefore seen as somehow inert. It's silly to wish for everything, and enough to know that some things exist for others.even only for others.

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