Absolutely, programmers are paid exceptionally well compared to a lot of other jobs. If they live paycheck to paycheck they are doing things wrong, especially when having family.
When you dig down into it, there's usually some insane luxury that they're completely unwilling to give up on.
If you're a software engineer in the United States, or in London, you can almost certainly FIRE.
Absolutely not enough to retire early but easily enough to not live paycheck to paycheck. Making 6 figures in the USA and not being able to afford life is so cryptic to me.