I don't see the problem here. Nobody should be able to install or disallow installation of software on a device except for the end user.
This is a value statement. There is more public concern and support for security and freedom to use commercial software than there is for using it as a Stallmanesque general-purpose computer.
I'm not your grandma, though, and I'll thank you (and Apple) for not treating me as if I were.
Sideloading blows a hole in that security guarantee