I worked at a Patent Law firm for 4 years and submitted thousands of prior art references to the USPTO in patent applications. I will try to answer your questions as best as I can. I'm not a lawyer and definitely not a patent lawyer. (I'm in my final year of law school.)
1) No — The Examiner will probably look at it, but it is not official unless the Examiner acknowledges consideration in a communication to the applicant. Also, there are certain time limits that apply.
2) If you mean, "does the prior art need to be a patent?", the answer is no. You can submit anything that discloses the invention (for example a website printout, a book, or an article). If you mean, "must the prior art be submitted in a particular patent?," the answer is yes. You need to submit the prior art to the Examiner in each patent application.
3) Yes. To submit prior art in a granted patent, you would need to reopen examination or challenge the patents validity in legal or administrative proceedings. Prior art is supposed to be disclosed during or prior to examination of a pending application.
4) I don't know, but I think it could if that video clip disclosed the substantive technology in a meaningful way, and wasn't just a bare concept.
The rules for submitting prior art by members of the public are contained in 37 CFR 1.291.
http://www.uspto.gov/web/offices/pac/mpep/mpep-9020-appx-r.h...