>have shifted their way of thinking rather extremely
What could I read to shift my way of thinking?
The signals & threads episode about OCaml strongly piqued my interest, and not because I have any JS delusions (they would never, lol).
This, at least for me, brings the act of writing a specific piece of code more inline with how I think about the system as a whole. I spend less energy worrying about the current state of the world and more about composing small, predictable operations on relationships.
As for what you can read, I find it's just best to get going with something like OCaml or F# and write something that can take advantage of that paradigm in a relatively straightforward way, like a compiler or something else with a lot of graph operations. You'll learn pretty quickly what the language wants you to do.