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I had kids and finally settled into a career at 33. It certainly forced me into adult mode after this.

I just met up with my Brother-in-law and his friends for our yearly gathering. All of them are in their 30s and none of them are in what I would consider 'adult mode'.

They are all un-married/no kids, barely scraping by, partying every weekend/wasting money on weed and booze. Certainly no careers (mostly retail, some unemployed and still living with parents).

I wonder if these numbers will change with the new generation, because so many are not having kids or getting married.

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This sounds more like an anecdote of “my brother-in-law and his friends are losers” more than any indication of a trend.

The median income almost doubles between age 23 and 35.

There's definitely a transition associated with becoming a parent - that is well documented.

When I think about my friends and friends of my relatives, what GP described appears to be the norm - also among the educated and in the upper-middle class. They often identify themselves as "dog parents".

I know plenty of people that had kids in their 20's - still didn't 'grow up' until their 30's. Just because they're not partying anymore doesn't mean they still don't act like adolescents when navigating complicated situations they're in (because they're had kids before they were necessarily 'ready') compared with someone in their 30's. I would argue that taking away that time in your late 20's where you can more easily make mistakes and try new things (while also having a bit of stability in terms of money) before having kids will lead to less maturity rather than more long term.

Probably not, the comment read more as a way to rant, self-boast, and judge others' lifestyles than anything insightful.

Did you read the article (or hell even the title) before commenting...?

>Please don't comment on whether someone read an article. "Did you even read the article? It mentions that" can be shortened to "The article mentions that".

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