This is largely not true for most processes. For a child process to start writing into its own data pages en masse, there has to exist a specific code path that causes such behaviour. Processes do not randomly modify their own data space – it is either a bug or a peculiar workload that causes it.
You would have a stronger case if you mentioned, e.g., the JVM, which has a high complexity garbage collector (rather, multiple types of garbage collectors – each with its own behaviour), but the JVM ameliorates the problem by attempting to lock in the entire heap size at startup or bailing if it fails to do so.
In most scenarios, forking a process has a negligible effect on the overall memory consumption in the system.