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Sun Tsu said you have to either give your opponent an out or completely destroy them. I’ve always said that you can only skin a sheep once but can shear them over and over. Or to be more blunt, it’s better to be effective than right.

It’s about keeping the bigger/long term goals in mind. That means relationships and being an asshole.

This is one of the Five Dysfunctions of a Team (fear of conflict, caused by absence of trust).

Highly recommend the book.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Five_Dysfunctions_of_a_Tea...

That one makes me uncomfortable, which is a bad sign...

I'd say it's a good sign – at least now you're aware it might be happening. A worse sign would be thinking you're definitely not that sort of personality; you'd be accruing silent resentment from both being loud _and_ clueless.