It’s Postel’s law at the end of the day: “be conservative in what you do, be liberal in what you accept from others”. As a site owner I want my site to fail loudly and quickly before a user sees a problem; as a user I never want to see a problem.
ePub is in a nice place: the number of documents to check for errors is reasonable, and the resulting artefect is designed to be shipped and never (or rarely) amended. That means that we can shift the balance towards strict parsing. But for a web site of thousands (or millions) of documents that are being amended regularly, the balance shifts back to loose parsing as the best way of meeting user needs.