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I cant explain why, but this strikes me as quite sad. Not her, really. But the guys that go after her. From the list and her demands I cant imagine a relationship with her would be a happy one. But that is just my opinion tho. (Out of curiosity I counted quickly the requirements I would fulfill : 25, and all her bonus requirements except the access to the server bit. That just screams "paranoid" to me. Why would that be a requirement for a relationship?

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Most of us have demands for a partner, even if you aren't consciously aware of them. Perhaps not this specific, but who knows? Try writing down the qualities of what your "perfect" mate would be and see what you end up with.

Of course, it's a completely different thing to do that as an exercise for yourself compared to actually publishing it on a social developer site, but to each their own I guess.

When I sit down and write out a list of qualities I want in my perfect mate I find that I rarely deal in absolutes. And the absolutes are more of the negative kind like I wouldnt want my new spouse to be doing drugs or anything like that. I think the appropriate way is to apply fuzzy logic to the good attributes and average it out.

The thought that just because the mate watches an hour of tv a day instead of the required half hour she would never be interested is horrible to me. This kind of thinking would reduce the act of dating down to just meeting up for five minutes, filling out questionaires and comparing them.

>This kind of thinking would reduce the act of dating down to just meeting up for five minutes, filling out questionaires and comparing them.

Isn't that the entire idea behind OkCupid? That seems quite successful.

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