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Comment by pfannkuchen | Hacker News Reader

Well that depends. Are they saying this because they have a problem with me specifically? Or is it because they have a problem with my asshole friend who I for some reason support financially?

If it’s the latter (like it is in reality, AFAICT), I would first do some serious reflection about my friend.

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They are not saying DEATH TO YOUR FRIEND. They are saying DEATH TO PFANNKUCHEN.

How much more specific do you want them to be?

Again, why would you let them get strong? Just so they kill you and your family? You don’t seem to care about yourself nor about your family enough.

In the analogy, if you are financially supporting guy A who is harassing guy B and his family constantly over years, and as a kicker guy A acts like he’s done nothing wrong, it is human nature for guy B to be pissed not only at guy A but also at YOU who financially supports guy A even while you know what he is doing.

If you stop financially supporting guy A and sincerely apologize to guy B, and guy B continues to be pissed at you, THEN you can act like he is unreasonable and take steps to protect yourself, even if those steps hurt guy B.

You can’t pretend guy A is blameless and act confused why guy B is pissed at you, which is what is happening in real life.

Of course I am going to support Guy A because HE IS MY FRIEND or FAMILY.

But the fact remains your strategy will only lead to your death and your family’s. Which it would be good for your family to know.

Of course you are free to support abusive behavior but especially with friends and family it would probably be useful for your own sake not to do so, and it is factually correct to view (and treat) you as enabler if you continue to do so despite knowing about the abuse.

I don’t care how things started. If someone wants to chop my head off and has shown evidence of chopping the heads off of people of my tribe, I will try to beat them first But you do you.

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