Where did I imply they have feelings? I am saying that how you act toward a machine is real. As real as your behavior directed toward other humans.
Being an asshole to a machine is still being an asshole.
Being an asshole to a machine is still being an asshole.
So boxing is violent. And I have chosen to box in my past. Does that mean I'm a violent person now? Even though I go out of my way to deescalate real fights?
I play games as the villain and and mass murder people in the game. Does that mean I'm a violent extremist?
If you are an asshole to a computer, then you have created similarly biases in my expectations about your potential behavior toward humans.
Observations create expectations. Be an asshole in any context, and people will assume you can be an asshole in other contexts.
Simple solution: never be an asshole.
If you are scared and mad about it - I guess we won't be friends, which is likely the best for both our mental sanity.