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No, you are simply associating with people who compliment your own interests (and presumably vice-versa). Not everyone can be friends with everyone. Trying to make relationship "work" when the individuals are fundamentally incompatible is the source of much unhappiness.

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I think the problem is that we're all interpreting this differently... I'm not saying you should force relationships at all. I'm saying cutting someone off just because they're going through a rough patch is no way to treat a human. You can afford to slow down your life a bit to help out a loved one.

I don't think the quote is advocating cutting out people who are going through a negative time, just those who are negative to YOU.

There's a difference between supporting someone through their difficulty and someone who is not supporting you, whether that means (consciously or unconsciously) belittling, undermining, or dismissing you or your ideas, or just not meshing well or productively with you.

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