1-2% (max!) equity in a company doesn't make me feel like an owner. http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=973106
By the time you get diluted you effectively are a stockholder with way too much of your net worth locked into one likely extremely volatile company. If you are lucky enough to be in a succesful startup you still have to survive the inevitable whiplash when your liquidity frees up.
Ironically and sadly I have a couple old-timer friends who have been through IPOs where they have lost money on the whole damn thing mostly due to taxes and poor timing.
Edit: and that really sucks for your friends. I feel bad for them :(